Learning to Love my Body

Learning to Love my Body

I am insecure about my body. I am a confident, beautiful, intelligent, loved woman with a mediocre body image.

I recently partnered with Kate Timber’s Photography (katelens.com) to bring empowerment and self-acknowledgment to my clients. When my clients purchase a 5 session package with myself they receive a free boudoir session with Kate! Why is this significant? I feel the boudoir session is an incredible way to heal ourselves emotionally, to release stuck, negative energy patterns being held in our body. And I realized I should really practice what I preach!  This photo-shoot is how I have started to change my body image for the better and hopefully if you relate to my story this blog will remind you that you not alone.

 

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I have always disliked a certain area of my body, my “baby making hips” and the luscious belly that comes with them. As a young girl I had nightmares about the much hated birthday POOL party. As I got older I found myself dressing to draw awareness to “my girls” and away from my midsection. I constantly wore loose dresses and oversized tanks, hiding what I perceived as the worst part of myself. Even today I’m a strong yogi who dreads catching a glimpse of her twisted body in the mirror, stomach rolls revealed.

We are taught to love our bodies the way they are, but this is much easier said then done and no matter how many “real women” campaigns Dove has there will always be girls and women wanting something they don’t have.

Yes, I could achieve a “fit” body by swapping a few lazy hours for more running and eating less sugar and more kale, but I love lazy days and wine way too much! So how do we enjoy our lives, not deprive ourselves, and learn to love our bodies at the same time? Start with yourself. That being said ,lets be honest, other people’s opinions do make a difference to most of us. So when we hear the cliche “love your bodies” we roll our eyes and sigh. Who are we kidding? It can seem impossible to love our bodies when people around us make us feel otherwise.

Remember, there will always be someone who disapproves, so we must do our best to disregard everyone’s opinions, that includes the positive. Even the compliments and attention from others is obsolete, because no matter how many men in my life have shown interest in my body it hasn’t made a difference. Why’s that? Because in reality our self-esteem really does stem from the self. I have “thought” my confidence was unwavering. After all I love many parts of my body…but when I stand in front of the mirror ,stripped of makeup and clothes, am I happy? Do I like what I see? For some time the answer had been no. And it’s not until recently that I accepted that this begins with me. Not with society’s view of me, not with men’s view of me, but my view of me.

 

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So what did I do about it? I upped my daily activity and replaced one meal a day with a doTERRA Trim Shake. I anticipated the day I’d reach my goal weight and finally be happy with myself. Problem solved right? Wrong.

One day I woke up and realized that I should not have to take any measures at all to force myself into self-acceptance. After all is that really self-approval? No that is self-improvement.

Then I had my photoshoot. I intentionally did nothing to prepare, I continued to have my wine at night and was a little bit lazy. The weekend before I ate an entire bag of puppy chow in the course of three days. Not the healthiest thing in the world, but I was determined to be myself entirely. At one point I had second thoughts, feeling fear that was trapped, poisoning my tissues and causing mayhem on my energetic, physical and mental being. Fear that was rising, fear that needed to be felt.

The big day came and it was definitely an experience. I felt like a true girl, thrilled to be in the spotlight, but something was different this time. I was vulnerable, no way to hide.  I made a conscious effort not to suck it in, not to neurotically place my hair behind my ears, I focused on just “being”.  It was stunning, for the first time I felt truly raw.

Bare, exposed.

Looking at these photos of myself I feel moved. I’m not perfect, I have flaws, but thats me. Its tough looking at myself without criticism. Its a struggle to transform any negative self talk. My boyfriend made a statement that rung very true to me”don’t compare yourself to anyone else, compare yourself to you” This advice made it all click for me. This is me, I’m comparing myself to me and I am gorgeous. This is my body, my vessel; my soul chose this body for a reason. This body is on borrowed time and its remarkable because it is worthy of carrying the soul that is me.

 

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I’m not saying that this is a cure to my insecurities, but I would never want to rid myself of all my insecurities because this is what makes me human. I am a spirit living a physical experience not a body living a spiritual experience. Part of living this physical experience is having flaws, a monkey mind, and occasionally self-doubt.

Now my hopes are that I can inspire you to start to love yourself without exceptions. Maybe I can encourage you to bare it all and shed your fears. This project has gotten me bounds closer to loving myself completely. I’m one step closer to believing in myself.

So I share these photos with you not in effort to get your approval but to shed my insecurities, to love myself despite my insecurities, despite my humanity, and despite some people’s opinions. I shed my fears and accept myself, AS IS.  This is me in this moment, no other moment matters. I’m not dwelling in the past, reminiscing of my sixteen year old self, I’m not dreaming of the future where I hope to become physically “fit”, I’m concentrating the mind on the present moment.

Here I am.

“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” ― Lao Tzu

 

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4 Comments
  • Brittany Chaplin
    Posted at 15:46h, 19 May Reply

    So beautiful, Madison! I honor what you have shared with us here <3

    • admin
      Posted at 20:00h, 23 May Reply

      That really means so much to me, you have no idea. Lots of love coming your way Brittany

  • Mirsha Gutierrez
    Posted at 04:49h, 22 May Reply

    You are sooo beautiful!

    • admin
      Posted at 20:00h, 23 May Reply

      Thank so so much Mirsha!

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